To feel good physically, mentally & emotionally, you need to experiment with what makes YOU feel good. Get to know yourself through self-development. Make self-love your priority every day, and you’ll receive what you are earning for: to feel good!
If I ask you, what makes you feel good? In all the areas, more time then not, you are unsure. I can relate to that, and I am still on that journey to understanding myself and what I need. But there was a time I drew a line in the sand and said I need to figure this shit out! I “just want to feel good,” “I just want to feel light,” be happy” “I don’t want to bring this into my marriage” “I don’t want my kids to feel the way I am feeling”… I say I am blessed because I knew the action I needed to take, but it just took me a while to start implementing them, and it’s still a battle. You may be reading this and thinking I don’t know what to do to feel good, and I don’t know where to start. Some of you might even be thinking, “there is something wrong with me – there is no way out of this.” believe me I remember when I reached my point of “this is enough” and sitting at Brian and I’s white table and saying, crying, and having all the emotions “there is something wrong with me … I need help” (and I still sometimes feel like that) … it was frustrating because If someone asked me what was wrong, I couldn’t tell them I didn’t know why I was feeling the way I was feeling.
I just knew I wanted to crawl out my skin; at times, the pressure in my chest was on level red, and my mind just wouldn’t shut off. Physically, mentally, and emotional, I was a wreck. Silently – for as long as I could remember. I knew what I needed to do, but I couldn’t do it. I just couldn’t. There was so much to what I was feeling for a long time. I couldn’t get out of my head. I made myself sick sometimes. I now realize I was scared to feel good because I was feeling so bad for so long. Just in my head non-stop, so much pressure I put on myself, and no one could help me because I didn’t even know what was wrong with me. I couldn’t explain how I felt and why I felt it because I didn’t even know myself. Here is my advice there is nothing more powerful then self-care. self-care doesn’t just come in the form of bubble baths and foot massage (don’t get me wrong I love a good foot massage) it also comes in the form of getting to know yourself. To get to know yourself, you have to spend time with yourself • write down the workflow of your thoughts, feelings, and everything in between. Some may be true; some may not be, but that’s not the point. The only way I could tap into what I needed was first to put what I was dealing internally on the notes of my phone.
I can’t even explain how helpful unloading my thoughts, eelings, ideas, etc. into something other than in my head. There were somethings that I wrote down that I didn’t even come back too. The fact that it was out of my head started opening up space for things I needed. Then there were many things were on repeat; I was consistently putting those thoughts, feelings, & emotions into my phone. And then I realized those are the things that I need to pay attention too. If it was a negative thought, feeling, or emotion, needed to dig a little deeper, and I find a way out, find a plan to help me with it. This process didn’t even come to me until I actually started feeling better but once I noticed repeated patterns I was able to realize those are the things I need to pay attention to. And then there were more positive things that could serve me purpose. there was a reason I kept thinking about them!
What is this telling me? Do I need to pursue it, do I need to figure out why? What is this telling me? If there is one thing that you want more than anything else that you wrote down… start there! Now your next step might cause the unknown, and sometimes you have to surrender your agenda, but it also might be what you need, and you didn’t know you needed it. If you want to feel good making feeling good your priority. Make alignment and feeling good a daily priority; make feeling good a practice. Be gentle, my friends. To grow, you have first to accept and love who you are at this very moment. It’s hard, I know! Very hard. But if you can close your eyes, take a deep breath every time that nasty thought whatever it may be comes into your mind, accept it, write it down and release it gently. You can even say “thank you. But I know longer need you” or “I choose peace over this” … Who you are isn’t those nasty thoughts. You are loved, and you are light. It’s already in you to have and to hold and to guide you.
I didn’t know it at the time but because I started writing all my thoughts, feelings, emotions, quotes, everything in my notes it really help me declutter my mind. I started feeling better, I started attracting things that make me feel good because I started writing down things that made me feel good. Our feelings are what create our reality, because we attract our likeness. So, when we feel good, we attract more good things, experiences and people into our lives.
I was in the middle of reading a book, and I had thoughts running through my head. I put down my book, and I opened my notes and started typing for as long as I something to say, and now that is what you are reading today. It’s feels good, really good for me to be able to share what has sat in my head for a long time. I knew after I wrote this I reached a new level of growth. My notes and what I’m thinking are now mostly creative ideas, positive goals, guidance, thinking about others and how I can serve them. Don’t get me wrong I still write about things that don’t serve me purpose but if I showed you my notes a year ago, 2 years ago or even 6 months ago you would understand how far I’ve come.
This practice helps you find what you need to work on or spend more time doing in order to grow! More times than not there is one thing that you need to change that will help other things fall into place. Like my diet, I know what I put in my body affects many different aspects of my life physically, mentally, emotionally, & financially. When I am eating whole foods, I am aligned. If you want to begin feel better. Start with your houghts/feelings/emotions. Write, write and write! Get them onto a piece of paper or into your notes in your phone. It helped my crazy nonstop mind to slow down, notice, and evaluate the actions I needed to take or the actions I didn’t need to take. It even helped me sleep better at night because that is when it was the worst. I am sure you can relate. I can’t even explain how good it feels to feel a little bit lighter all because I am not storing away unnecessary feelings/thoughts/emotions in my head. Just the action on getting them out of your head will help you feel a little bit better.
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